A sponsor is a more experienced member of a 12-step program who provides guidance and support to newcomers. They offer encouragement, share their own experiences, and help you work through the steps and principles of the program.

There's no set timeframe for finding a sponsor. You can start looking when you feel comfortable, even if it's in your first few weeks or months of the program. However, many newcomers find it helpful to attend several meetings and get a feel for the program and the people involved before choosing a sponsor.

You can find a sponsor by:

• Asking other members for recommendations.

• Talking to members who share similar experiences or backgrounds.

• Paying attention to people who seem to have a strong recovery program.

• Attending different meetings and observing how people interact.

Ideally, you want a sponsor who:

• Has long-term recovery in the program.

• Has a strong understanding of the steps and principles.

• Is patient, supportive, and encouraging.

• Shares similar values and life experiences (optional).

• Is someone you feel comfortable talking to and trust.

It's okay if you don't feel comfortable with your first sponsor. It's important to find someone you connect with and feel safe sharing your experiences with. You can try asking for recommendations from other members or attending different meetings to find someone else who might be a better fit.

• How long have you been in recovery?

• How did you find your sponsor?

• What are your thoughts on the program?

• How do you approach working the steps?

• What are your expectations for a sponsee?

• How often are you available for communication?

Once you find a sponsor, you will typically:

• Meet with them regularly (in person or virtually).

• Discuss your progress in the program.

• Work through the steps together.

• Share your challenges and successes.

• Receive guidance and support.

• Be honest and open with your sponsor.

• Communicate regularly and be available.

• Be respectful of your sponsor's time and boundaries.

• Be willing to take feedback and suggestions.

• Let your sponsor know if you have any concerns or questions.

Yes, it's perfectly acceptable to change sponsors if you feel it's not a good fit. Your needs and preferences may change as you progress in your recovery, so it's important to have a sponsor who can support you effectively.

Many 12-step programs have resources on their websites or literature about sponsorship. You can also talk to other members or your sponsor for guidance.

Remember, finding a sponsor is a personal decision. Take your time, ask questions, and choose someone you feel comfortable with and can learn from. A good sponsor can play a vital role in your recovery journey.